Changing Overwhelming Feelings One Word at a Time

Love

Our hearts have ached, and are still aching for the families of Grenfell Tower in London and the outpour of love is in true British style as we help each other.

Here’s the justgiving page to donate to if you want to as well. Set up by a lady, Hayley Yearwood, Director of Learning at a school in the area. She never thought it would achieve so much, so quickly when she first set it up, in fact hoped it would reach £10,000, but having quickly raised £1million she has doubled the target to £2 million. What a beautiful response from so many people.

We are living in strange times at the moment, with the dividing politics being at the forefront of everyone’s minds, social media feeds and household conversations.

It can get overwhelming seeing the constant stream of news and it’s certainly made me feel very down and helpless.

Remember, this too will pass. You will soon see your spirits lifted, time heals and changes will be made.

One way we can reduce some of the overwhelming feelings is by choosing our language differently. I found myself using huge Generalisations as I got upset, and needed to change how I felt, so thought I’d share this with you today and hope it helps you, or a member of your family and friends too.

In my NLP studies and applications, we learned by changing sentences, asking questions, swapping words around, we can create a greater or lesser effect on different emotions.

In language, by saying EVERYone, EVERYbody, ALLways, ALL the time, EVERY time, is all encompassing and can be so overwhelming and limiting (NLP technical terms is Generalisations – Universal Quantifiers)

e.g. ALL ways is possibly not accurate, is it? It’s usually only sometimes, isn’t it?

From overwhelming to empowering.

To reduce overwhelm, I ask my clients, “It’s not always like this, is it?”

“It’s not every day this happens is it?”

Generalisations Universal Quantifiers

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By questioning the limiting generalisation, we seek other meaning, which is helpful to be able to change how we feel and create new possibilities and direction.

How would you rather feel today?

Take time to give yourself a hug, your family a hug, your clients a hug.

Deepen rapport when you are with them.

Choose love.

To your success and happiness, sending you a virtual hug and love.